We’ll Take Care of the Rest

Dear Unconditional Love - What would you have me know today?

Wow, what a beautiful day my love. I can feel your tears welling up again thinking about the generosity and thoughtfulness of your friends this morning.

Starting with the text from Melissa: “we’ll take care of the rest” was a healing you needed to hear. Wow how deeply that filled a hole in you. You’re always “taking care of the rest”. For yourself and for everyone you know. Your family and friends are so fortunate to have you, and so am I. I know you’ve questioned that before. You’ve hustled so hard for your worthiness in all those relationships. And the resentment boils fast. But not with this chosen family of yours. They see you. They spent time making sure their celebration with you was special because they see you making others feel special. That’s your gift. Your thoughtfulness is often unmatched. I know it’s felt easy to give up in the past. Give up on the wishes you had of other people being thoughtful towards you, wanting to make you feel as special as you make them feel. 

And then this chosen family came along. Not only did they try to surprise you, they went out of their way to make sure you felt special by orchestrating childcare, balloon pick ups, special sparky Hope inclusions and then that fucking book. Wow.

Gosh babe I am just so proud of you. You’ve been through so much friendship grief, felt so alone for so long. And today was so healing for you. These people made a freaking book of all the moments you’ve made them feel special and all the memories you’ve had together in a seemingly short amount of time and made a story that’s permanent. That means so much, I know. 

Remember when you wouldn’t get BFF necklaces with anyone because you didn’t want to jinx the friendships you had? I know it felt like it was about the necklaces at the time but it was so much more about not wanting to get hurt. 

I know you still have that fear closer to the surface than you’d like with these friends. It’s terrifying. Grief is something you’re so fucking done with, and I get that. You’re a pink belt in that by now. 

I’m here to reassure you that yes, you may fall in love with this group and lose them, but it’s the cheesiest shit that’s true - it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Remember when you wrote that to the sellers here? Funny you decided to read your letter today so we could talk about that cheesy line now. 

Go all in on these friends, babe. You can trust them, they are worth it, and so are you. Keep the tears coming. Keep the thoughtfulness circle going. This is your tribe. You are not alone anymore and you never will be. Sit beside them, have grace for each other and yourselves, and keep going. It’s only going to get more beautiful from here. I’m so happy for you babe, you deserve this. I love you.

Thought it was a birthday sash, which was a thoughtful idea already! But nope. This fucking book… I can’t even…